Feb 15 2009

Some Inspired Thoughts on Detachment

Published by at 5:06 pm under Spiritual

I have often thought of the Christian concept of “detachment” as somewhat perplexing. As I have lifted my spirit to the LORD for a bit of edification, He has been faithful to give us a good picture of what this means…exactly.

As we read in the web log entitled “Embrace It,” Michael Molinos is telling us that we need to be detached from creatures (family, friends, acquaintances), temporal things (everything in this realm of time), the very gifts of the Holy Spirit, and the big one – SELF. He states that lastly we must be LOST in GOD! And I believe it is in this final concept that we find some clues pertaining to mastering detachment.

As human beings we are taught to love our neighbors as ourselves, that we will naturally adore our spouses, our children, and be very close to all of our family members. How then can we be “detached” from them and still do this?

The LORD suddenly gave me the most beautiful vision of a Christian soul standing with a brilliant beam of LIGHT flowing down upon him/her. This person had been captured by Father and was indeed a love slave to the LORD. This soul now belonged to Him . .yea, was possessed by Him.. Then another aspect of the vision was revealed…an equally brilliant beam of LIGHT flowing from the center of this soul upwards through the center of the LIGHT beaming down. The TWO were indeed locked together. This seems to be what JESUS meant when He said that He and the Father would make a home in us: “If a person [really] loves Me, he will keep My word [obey My teaching]: and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home (abode, special dwelling place) with him.” (John 14:23) And we all know that they do!! Is it not true that a picture is worth a thousand words!?. Yet we sometimes struggle to maintain this stance of union so perfectly presented. We temporarily forget His very possession of us! As with all aspects of maturation in the faith, practice makes perfect, and He will be there to help us the entire way.

As I reflected on all of this I was given a knowing and assurance that if we maintained an awareness of the togetherness portrayed in this vision along with the wonderful assurance that the Creator of the Universe dwells within us, we would indeed be LOST in GOD. Being lost in Him in no way implies being unloving or distant! JESUS was certainly “lost” in His Father as He walked out His earthly ministry. . .doing all of the things that His Father was doing through Him. From this very posture of unity with the Godhead, we give, we love, we receive, we enjoy, we laugh, we cry, we play, we heal, deliver, save, and so forth.. .as the Father and the Son do these things through us! We do all that life calls for, but we NEVER forget that it is as if we are reaching out from this brilliant column of LIGHT created by our union to do them, and we can quickly pull in to be refreshed as JESUS demonstrated when He went away to the mountain to be with Father.

I was dialoguing with my dear sister in Christ Rita Speers on this very subject. In fact I asked what her perspective on this was. Here I wish to simply quote from her response as it so very well amplifies what I have presented thus far:

I will continue this “thread” of conversation pertaining to your mention of “detachment.” I can relate to this very strongly as I have been through many strong purgings to the purpose of detachment. After walking today, the Lord began explaining this reason for the need for detachment to me. Detachment is important – for whatever things or people we are bound to, to the extent which we are bound, that amount of loyalty or servitude also goes to the person or thing. ALL of our hearts, loyalties, and servitude must belong to God. We may love, but we must love as HE loves, and wills us to love. He will not share ownership of us with any person or thing. In a marriage you cannot have other lovers! We are to be married to Him! He is a jealous lover. He merits our complete allegiance.Please note that Rita is implying that she did not do the severing of these ties herself; it seemed to have been done for her with the aid of the Holy Spirit. . ..ds) I love them, yes, but there has been a bondage broken between us. For me to cling to them would also impair their ability to be held only by HIM. We must trust the Father to care for them, provide for them, and to be their God and Father as He is ours. To try to be bound to another is to usurp His place in their lives as well. I love my husband and daughter, but they are not mine; they can only belong to the Father.I am just now realizing that things that He set in motion countless years ago are coming together to provide for me now. . . He is Alpha and Omega. . .He knows the end from the beginning. . .His love is unmeasurable! Whether in want or plenty, sickness or in health…my heart finds Peace and satisfaction in Him. . .my troth is pledged to Him. . .


As I read over what has been written thus far, I get the word “FREEDOM.” By yielding ourselves to JESUS and our Father we are freeing ourselves and OTHERS from the bondage of this world. The Word of God tells us that we are as aliens and sojourners here…as Rita said…”just passing through.” When we have mastered union with God and becoming lost in Him, it FREES us from everything except Him. THEN, and only then, can HE begin to USE us…to do His work through us. Detachment and surrender ( or this yielding process and letting go) seem so intricately related. We surrender completely to the LORD and lo and behold, we have detached from all in this world…even those closest to us. And as Rita so clearly and articulately pointed out, this FREES our loved ones to be solely Father’s. By failing to detach, we are keeping them in bondage. This is an aspect of detachment that I had admittedly not previously considered, and it makes it much easier for me to let go of some very close ties that I have.

Because we are soul/spirits living in bodies that are also temporary, we have the innate ability as born again believers to detach from our fleshly vessels (or “tents” as Paul put it) and its infirmities. We can choose to dwell in that part of our soul that is already sanctified and in union with God. Father can and will use our bodies in any way He wishes to assist in the completion process. If we are given to suffer, we are more likely to turn to the LORD completely. This kind of detachment also enables us to rise above pain and suffering or embrace it as the LORD so leads.

And finally we must always remember that we are “in this world but not of it” and are citizens of God’s own household. That makes us truly separate from this world and thus we are separate from those we love who have not yet come into Christ. One day they will!! Knowing that we are from a different realm altogether makes it easier to detach from all earthly ties and be lost in God, our heavenly Father.

If any of you have additional revelation on this topic or wish to dialogue on it, please let me know! It is a good thing to share our struggles and victories in different areas with others in the body. In this way we actually encourage one another. It is nice to keep the web site interactive, and I love to include some of the wonderful and profound things that others have to say that will bless us.

Let us go now in that PEACE which passes all understanding and DETACH with love…for our sakes and for theirs.


“Beloved, I implore you as aliens and strangers and exiles [in the world] to abstain from the sensual urges (the evil desires, the passions of the flesh, your lower nature) that wage war against the soul.” I Peter 2:11

May Christ through your faith [actually] dwell (settle down, abide, make His permanent home) in your hearts! May you be rooted deep in love and founded securely on love.” Ephesians 3:17

But far be it from me to glory [in anything or anyone] except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, through Whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world!” Galatians 6:14

In this [union and communion with Him] love is brought to completion and attains perfection with us, that we may have confidence for the day of judgment [with assurance and boldness to face Him], because as He is, so are we in this world.” I John 4:17

“And He raised us up together with Him and made us sit down together [giving us joint seating with Him] in the heavenly sphere [by virtue of our being] in Christ Jesus (the Messiah, the Anointed One).” Ephesians 2:6

“I no longer feel toward my loved ones as I once did. I feel that there has been a cutting of soul ties with them.

“I have always felt that I was just “passing through” this world in which I am. I would be content to be a “lodger” or “renter” only. Though I am in my second home, I am not attached to it. The thought of having a cozy little log home in a mountain setting has always been near to my heart, and I love the majestic beauty of this world, but I know this world is very temporary. The Lord will provide for me as HE wills and whatever that includes will be just the thing that I needed! I know that ultimately I will be thoroughly satisfied beyond my wildest dreams. . .

“I know you share this knowledge and we can rejoice in that!”

8 responses so far

8 Responses to “Some Inspired Thoughts on Detachment”

  1. Colleen Bilyewon 16 Feb 2009 at 2:04 pm

    On detachment, it was droped into my heart that when we are with others (who ever and what ever their relation to us) we more than likely may be required to “change our garments” or not appear unto them in our “Priestly Clothing”.

  2. Colleen Bilyewon 16 Feb 2009 at 2:07 pm

    Sorry, I didn’t get to finish my writing..about detachment. I wanted to add that if we have to “change our garments”, yet, His love most certailny will pass through us, but it will be in silence, in the silence of his great love and power. blessings, Colleen!

  3. Rita Speerson 17 Feb 2009 at 3:01 am


    I have to add a resounding “AMEN!” to what you were shown about FREEDOM! This cutting of the soul ties has indeed brought me to a new level of FREEDOM, and as you said, it was the FATHER who arranged and executed the loosening of these bondages! I didn’t recognize the need for this freeing until I experienced it. I cannot praise Him enough!


  4. Katherine Dardenon 17 Feb 2009 at 6:20 am

    When our hearts are attached to our loved ones in a natural way, there is always an element of selfishness connected…a what’s in it for me? mentality…whether it be emotional fulfillment, material gain, or many other motives, self is being gratified in some way. When our Father orders our circumstances so that these natural ties are broken, there is usually some pain involved in the cutting loose (circumcision of the heart). After the cutting process which He alone orchestrates, then we are truly free to love with the divine motives that leave everything in God’s hands…all of ours and the loved ones circumstances, etc. Hope this makes sense…

  5. PAULAon 22 Feb 2009 at 2:12 am


  6. Reuben-Cephason 14 Mar 2009 at 1:03 am

    I too must concur with these Spirit-inspired words. It is indeed the aid and dealings of Holy Spirit that are working within us to bring us into TRUE UNISON with the DIVINE CHRIST so that we may thereafter EXPRESS HIS ESSENCE in the Earth realm and initiating its DELIVERANCE! Detachment can only be fully achieved as we come to BAPTISM OF FIRE UNTO POSSESSION OF GOD!

    Yours in Pursuit of the Lamb

  7. Margaret Nwokedion 15 Mar 2009 at 2:22 pm

    My spirit rejoiced at this spirit-inspired words. I have personally prayed for years that the Lord should detach me from ALL that is of this lower realm so I can run this race without hindrance. Our God is a jealous God, He will not share this Heart with any other, our affection must be for Him and Him alone. If we must love others, be it family or possession, it must be THROUGH Him. It is whatever we hold on to that will hold us down. Beloved. the day of the lord is upon us, let us get detach from all else and attach to Him alone. This is the true REST and FREEDOM.

  8. JJ Lewison 31 Dec 2012 at 6:18 am

    I so appreciate this sharing and am thankful for the clarity it brings to me. I especially concur with Reuben-Cephas, that this (at least in my own life) has come through the Baptism of Fire. It is definitely a work of the Spirit of God as we surrender. To decide in my own strength — I am going to be detached, does not bear the imprint of Father. It is a most precious and delicate work in the most inner regions of His children by His Spirit….yet it can ‘feel’ like a warrior’s cutting away and be very painful. I am so VERY thankful for His tender mercies that allow us to see the freedom involved in this work of His that gives strength to continually surrender our hearts before Him. Kathryn Darden put it so well, that our motives will be pure after He does this work in us…..Thank you for the wonderful article Dianna! I have just recently been led to this site and it has been SUCH encouragement to me!

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